Designing Your Future Together

We are so happy you have discovered our relationship-friendly approach to planning your future together.

Designing Our Future Together will help you have the important discussions you need to have to do life together - with sensitivity, confidence and security.

We invite you to go through the whole program as a couple but note that there are some exercises we suggest you do individually before sharing together.

Real relationships combine the essential characteristics of you (individually) and YOU (as a couple)!

Reality Check: You may find that one of you is more invested in completing the whole program while the other is less structured (focussed? obsessed?) about the whole thing!?!

Hey! Some of us are planners and some of us are ... not!

This difference is completely normal. Appreciate and embrace it. Self-discovery brings a better understanding of what you each bring to the plural YOU.

When you are ready to discuss the “legal stuff,” book a session with your lawyer, mediator, coach or financial consultant – and if you haven't yet chosen a consultant, check out our list of Family Professionals Around the World who are committed to supporting relationships.

We want you to design your future on your terms.

Dive into the questions and engage in your own discussions.

The first part of this program is like a "date night" enhancement. (Please have a few laughs along the way!)

The second part will help you prepare to consult with your chosen professionals.

As you work through this program, you will be invited to consider questions about your relationship and the way you engage with one another. Your advisor will be happy to hear all about you, but you don't need to share everything!

Before you go...

Here are some inspiring words from Jacinta Gallant, the creator of Designing Your Future Together. FYI - Jacinta is still married to the guy she met when she was 21!

“Never cut what can be untied.” 

Ropes make knots and knots are useful – think fishing, rappelling, rope ladders and bows. Learning to tie shoelaces is one of our early achievements. When we marry, we “tie the knot”.

On the flip side, when we are anxious, we can feel all “tied up in knots”. The hangman’s noose is a knot. The Gordian Knot symbolizes an intractable problem. And most parents have struggled to get knots out of children's hair!

Chances are you are feeling some knots in your stomach as you face important decisions about your future. Even happy plans can lead to difficult conversations.

Couple relationships are complex, challenging and beautiful - like knots and the complicated arrangements that make them. Our hope is that the work you do to design your future together will lead those stomach knots to feel like “butterflies” as you find your way through challenges, with opportunities for self-discovery along the way.  

You've got this!
Jacinta Gallant,

Never Cut What Can Be Untied is from Joseph Joubert (1754)